Wednesday, August 25, 2010

people watching

There are always one or more reasons behind every decision made.  Even the impersonal ones.  Even the ones we try to deny as having any sort of thought behind them beyond the subconscious act of doing. And, there is a particular emphasis made on the decisions whose results will be seen outwardly.

I note:

Sometimes, we want praise and gratification for a deed well done, assumed to be selfless yet the merit received is unavoidably ego boosting. Or, we chose to present ourselves in a means that will generate a response, whether vocal or non-vocal, that will give us that temporary flash of self-satisfaction that makes the decision worth all the effort. We are not wrong in doing so. We cannot be wrong, for as humans, to err is what we do naturally. Yet occasionally, an outsider’s perspective will view a person, a demeanor and a motion as so intentionally forced it comes off as unattractive.

When and where can we send ourselves the message to not take a destructive next step and turn to act in reverse, preventing that craved temporary high bound by universal law to end in a feeling of doubt and desolation?

I wish myself that luck.




D.C.

Monday, August 23, 2010

monday night extraordinary

A huge and melodramatic problem of mine has always been giving in to the time of day, the day of the week, the time of year and/or the general aura of whatever state of mind everyone else had seemed to have allowed themselves to also fall into. 3PM? Starting to bonk. Solution? Starbucks and $4.25 later. 7PM? Mindlessness. Click on the TBS Seinfeld rerun to hopefully shift your aloneness to an American connectivity. Today, for instance, is obviously a Monday. Maybe 1/5 of my office either called in sick or simply didn't show (despite darling Bruce, the English gent who publicly escaped away to London for the week to enjoy the homeland (jealous is my soul)), and the majority of us remainders fell into the gray and gloomy slump of the appropriate outside overcast weather and cloud that loomed over this Monday. So did I, truthfully. Who cares if a day is fully wasted? I admittedly enjoy making myself almost purposefully miserable sometimes. I like (or I at least sometimes think that I like) falling into a funk every now and then...and perhaps more often than conventional...to give myself a declared excuse to isolate and screen my phone calls and even tangible connections. But why do it? Why not push to make things better?

I strangely hate working. I love and hate it all at the same time. Mostly, I naively hate working when it feels like work, ie., the idea that waking up and getting ready during the two hours before your punch-in of the time clock hits is irrationally infinitely worse than the workday itself, yet it all meshes into the necessity of it all. What can be done to enjoy this thing, this absolutely terribly important thing that happens day-to-day that constitutes your life? Make it interesting. Spontaneous. Give a day something different that it doesn't deserve by typical Monday standards.

Today, I pushed my lunch hour back to about as far as my empty stomach could stomach so I would have a significantly shorter afternoon to work than my morning hours endured. I was productive but not overly, conversational but not enthusiastically. Yet a surprise was given to me once 6:20 came along and I stepped in my door. It wasn't particularly earned or needed (as I thought) but who wouldn't take an ordinary day and make it something more, if it didn't ask for any of the effort?

A savory and nothing less than a delicious smell of risotto being tenderly stirred over the stove with an incorporated and sensational blend of garlic, red and white wines and pumpkin aromas lingering over the heat in unbalanced proportions nearly made me go weak at my heels upon entry of my foyer. I'm handed a glass of Pinot. No questions asked, just a greeting. What could be more acceptable than acceptance? And no explanations? My cocker spaniel chews on the tail of my cat. There's love in my home without any sign of it, and yet, it's so definitively there because of the pure and simple un-enforcement of such a feeling. It's natural, imperfect, and thus...pretty damned good. Great. More than the earlier parts of the day would have allowed on your own.

The Delmonico is sliced, fresh parsley is chopped and blended into the parmesan creaminess of the rich risotto and more wine is poured. We all eat quickly, of course. Why sit and stew over a meal that is too fantastically tasty to hold yourself back from and eat daintily whist enjoying every individual ingredient and flavor? Yes, this is a sporadic and truly enjoyable evening, but it is Monday after all, and we are all still human (myself being unfaltering the most flawed out of them all) and have to eat up before...well, something else commands our attention.

It's all good. Very good. From out of the dress clothes and in to the... hah, well...the absolute crap clothes that are so very lost of their elasticity but too full of comfort and nostalgia to ever toss into the hands of the Rescue Mission and that you can't help but reach for when you want to put on something in your downtime when there is no one there for you to impress. A great meal on a cool night approaching the Fall, and all the reason in the world to sigh in contemplation and in delight for the season to come has been mine. Thank you, family. Who cares if it's Monday and dinner along with the evening hours should be convenient? You loved ones proved me wrong. Gladly. It is becoming more evident to me that a goal of mine is to blend each day into one: to not look forward to Friday, Saturday and Sunday, but to see each day as a mini-playground that is to be explored and made fun as a day of living, just for the hours that it consists of, and not it's place in its seven-day schedule. I'm not saying every day should be great and spontaneous and spent doing something 112% out of the ordinary so you are sure to enjoy life. Hell, I'm usually too cynical and not in the mood enough to do that. But why not try a little? Would that kind of work be so bad? I don't think so. Look at how it served me today.

Make a Monday good; make yourself good.

D.C.

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

gasp

I got a job. A real one, as in, I am earning a LIVING for myself. It is incredibly triumphant, yet moderately depressing. So long ago seem the sweet and sinful days of my youth. Now, I am behind a desk from 8:30AM-5:30PM writing, writing, WRITING about sports and outdoor products. I...don't know what to do. First things first, I am absolutely elated to be employed, with an income, and a purpose for the day. I will have a paycheck and a damn reputable thing to say to relatives the next time the encounter arises. And let's face it, I get to walk throughout the downtown web of streets with the rest of my kind, as one of the youngest of the crop, in smart casual clothing and an air of promise. But there are downsides, and I see many of them at this early stage. I miss my runs, my reading and writing leisure, the sunlight. Sitting indoors for nine hours each day with minimal discussion (it is a copywriting firm, thus everyone keeps to themselves at their respective desks, silently) makes me gasp for noise when I leave the gorgeously ornate building where I am located. If I only give it time, it will get all the more normal. And rewarding. There are many contradictions I now so face.

Perhaps what I am enjoying the most is being young and in the workforce in my downtown city. I have always found it a perfectly good place to have grown up because of the seasonal climate, city and rural settings, and truly hundreds of other worthwhile attributes that I have loved from my youth into early adulthood. My city is at the most prosperous point I have ever seen her in, with astounding architectural erections, renovations, and job creation that city officials have a right to be proud of. They all equally have a goal for the young talent remain here, and I feel perhaps worthy to do so and that I am be contributing to the good of it all in my semi-narcissistic way. I'm happy with that. Very. I also have another job: a small retail position to give my PR two cents on clothing sales during the weekends. So...I am busy. There is a lot of adjusting to do, and if I know myself at all, I will do so quickly. It's just a little bittersweet. As a student, the next year of my life was always guaranteed and always certain with a set place for me to fall up into. Not anymore. I could get fired tomorrow and be unemployed again. The firm could go bankrupt for all I know, and I would be pleased as punch to be sent to Dunkin' Donuts. I suppose it is the monotony I fear; doing the same thing all day every day and not having much control over changing it. And don't you dare tell me that I have control over my attitude and can in fact change the way I perceive things. I know. I will...it's just...(for lack of a better word) transitional.


D.C.

Friday, August 6, 2010

le porn

I know how to cook well for my age. I know the difference between fresh, in-season produce and those that have been dehydrated of all nutritional value. I also know that you eat first with your eyes, then with your mouth. If you have a hankering for something you can't quite get your finger on or need some culinary inspiration, look no farther. Feast your eyes on this online delicacy:


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Between this, smittenkitten, and anything published by Bobby Flay on Food Network online, you have absolutely zero excuse to heat up a Lean Cuisine. 


D.C.

Thursday, August 5, 2010

inspirations


Who in this world has not been inspired by a piece of literature?  You're inhuman if you haven't.  I don't care if it was a novel forced upon you by your mother, begging you to un-glue your eyes from the TV, or your 5th grade schoolteacher reading aloud "Where the Red Fern Grows" during the half hour after recess.  SOMETHING has hit you.  Hopefully, a few works have hit you.

For me, there have been dozens and dozens of books, short stories, and works of poetry that have knocked me over the head like a sack of potatoes and at the time, I thought changed my world indefinitely.  Perhaps their resonance hasn’t profoundly impacted my every day since reading them like they did at the time I turned the final page, but there is most certainly a component to each one of my favorite stories that will always last, however subtly, years after completion until age and a forgetful brain will require me to pick it up and read it again.

To read is to write and to write is to read.  From the pool of my favorite authors and minds, I have come to notice that my elite picks are the ones who write as if I can hear them speaking to me directly, in their own voice, as if we were sitting face-to-face in a public area.  They allow me to read their eyes, their innermost thoughts and secrets; not just their printed words on a page.  There are three authors in particular I can say with assurance have allowed me to do that, and have remained the three strongest influences on my literary health since I was a teenager.  They are three very different creators that have provided me with a certain tripod of balance and admiration, so that when I find myself shifting more towards one of the three than another, the remaining two rather quickly put me in check and bring me back to the center of my triangle so I may more fully enjoy the three minds that enable the form of thinking that make me feel the most content and at home.  They include the Descriptor, the Genius, and the Badass, and I earnestly adore them all as if they were my family members.  In a way they are.  Allow me to present them to you, and you damn well better have read at least one sentence by each of them.

The Descriptor: John Steinbeck

The man is the god of imagery.  I will confess, after reading all of his principle works from ‘Canary Row’ to ‘Travels with Charlie,’ it was a bit of a treacherous journey to get through ‘The Grapes of Wrath,’ much like it was for the Joad family to navigate cross-country.  However, one thing is more than accurate when describing the collection of the Steinbeck library: he…well…describes.  Ridiculously well.  To me, Hemingway has nothing on this ultimate California dude who provides an account of Salinas and it’s dichotomy of hills and valleys like no one ever has or will. 

I read three of his novels while in high school (thank you, English teachers of good taste) and instantly attributed this guy as someone apart.  What is it that he did for me?  I’m sure you’ve been told before that your first taste of something sticks with you more than the others; not in the “first impressions” sense of the term, but the idea txhat say, the first ice cream flavor you try at a particular parlor will always be attached to you somehow and you always long for it, even just a little bit, every time you return and contemplate which flavor you’ll have a scoop of that visit.  The first taste of Steinbeck for me was ‘East of Eden,’ which I was automatically weary of when I purchased it for class and saw the Oprah’s Book Club sticker in the bottom corner of the paperback cover.  Proved me wrong.  ‘EofE’ remains one of my favorite books I have ever read, and not even for the brilliant storyline spanning across the three generations of the Trask family.  Rich in symbolism and biblical undertones that are impossible to miss, Steinbeck crafts each page like verse of poetry and it reads as easy fluid as a drink of water.  The way he stresses the importance of the environment on man’s inner-nature is like an autobiography for the author himself; one’s surroundings is oneself, and there is no detachment between the two.  Inside Steinbeck’s world, you can’t resist the truly curious feeling of a child, eager of American soils you have never set foot upon and desperate to experience. 


If, you so shamefully, have never given yourself the gift of his work, I recommend starting with ‘Of Mice and Men.’  It will take you three days to read, and it is the perfect introduction into the mind of Steinbeck.  I promise you will sympathize with the characters and feel as if you are exercising the same physical labor they endure.  Imagery, colors, sights…Steinbeck gives them to you without the forced literary techniques you were demanded to include in your five-paragraph essays of grade school.  He is the beautifully romantic corner of the triangle that allows me to truly feel.

The Genius: Ayn Rand
    
I cannot do this remarkable woman justice.  As I have dubbed her ‘The Genius,’ she doesn't need me to demonstrate for her that she is a woman for all of mankind whose brilliance is just so damn overwhelming I can’t even sanely give her words through my earnest excitement.  From her personal philosophy of “objectivism” to her astounding knowledge of railroads, mills, and architecture as if she was an expert in the fields, I look up to this woman in awe and complete praise.  I don’t know how a Russian-born female author in the 1940s could have had so much courage to speak without fear of consequence or reception.  I don’t have that courage now.  I sure as hell don’t have a fraction of her intelligence, but I just know that she has given me some sort of relief and hope that as long as her word is still read, I will be comforted by her as some find comfort in looking up into the night sky.

I picked up ‘The Fountainhead’ two years ago during a winter that constituted five of the longest months of my young life.  The story we have there is for another day, but what I can mention about it now is that I was saved, in part, by her paragraphs, her chapters, and the whole of that novel.  That GREAT novel.  I call it my second Bible, and one of the best gifts I have ever received was a beautiful hardcover copy of it for my twenty-first birthday.  I have yet to open it out of fear that even I am to soiled for its touch.

Rand has done something for me with ‘The Fountainhead’ that I’m guessing doesn’t happen to just any person who works on a beach read: she has created a character who I fully idolize, respect, and love more than most human beings I have met.  His name is Howard Roark.  He is physically unattractive but stunning to the soul, and I truly envy the only woman who could ever gain his devotion.  The heroine is, plain and simply, a lucky son of a bitch.  But no need to digress in a jealous fit of spite against her.  She too, is wonderful.  But unlike her, Roark is able to transform the men who are bright enough to understand their ignorance compared to his and adopt it, or he sets fire to those who cannot see past the edge of conformity.  He is an absolute, uncompromising hero, and it is his untouchable perfection of mind and body that one desperately wishes would exist outside of a storybook. I so wish it would.  If you know Roark, you know what I’m talking about.  If you know Rand, you know I have to be a little bit dramatic when on the topic of her art. 


I feel like one huge hypocrite to say that I am only 445 pages into ‘Atlas Shrugged,’ and it is my first time cracking it open.  Oops.  I’ll stand by my case regardless: finishing the book will only be a reaffirmation of my claim to her, and my hope is that you will do yourself a favor, THE favor, by reading all 1,000+ pages of her works as well.  Meet Roark.  Meet Taggart (Dagny of course, not Jim).  Get to know them and try to compare them to anyone you know.  It’s impossible.  Rand truly creates a brand new world.

The Badass: Anthony Bourdain

No, he is not the winner of the Nobel Prize for Literature or the next in line to be knighted for overall greatness.  But Tony, MY Tony, has inspired me to extreme proportions that might make some roll their eyes wondering where this oddball fits in with my triangle.  Honestly, he has had the greatest impact on my desire to keep reading, writing, and most importantly, to write rawly.  If you have ever seen an episode of ‘No Reservations’ or read ‘Kitchen Confidential,’ you know that there is something a little different about this cook who got on TV and wrote a couple of books for kicks.  Perhaps I idolize him because he is a contemporary; a man who is actually living each day here in the now as I am, and thus, seems more tangible.  Whatever the reason, I’ve just made my peace with knowing that he has been a reason.  Period.  A reason why I have taken print communication a little more seriously.

Bourdie is an arrogant little bastard, and he will be the first to acknowledge so.  I don’t know whether or not it makes it more ‘okay’ to be a bastard, if you know that you are one, but I don’t really give a damn when it comes to Bourdain.  The man is underestimated and easily pushed aside by frumpy older men like my father who credit him with nothing beyond a rich and privileged white boy.  Besides being an exquisite foodie with a keen taste in liquor and most things illegal, Anthony can cook. He can cook well.  I have no idea how he pushed through his early years as a temporary chef snorting X, Y, and Z drug while launching hundreds of orders of steak frites and foie gras out into dining room rotation.  I envy the way his mind works.  The words that come out of his mouth and the rapidity of his thoughts.  They are pompous and always assumed to be right, but are never narrow-minded: the man has traveled the world, and has earnestly listened along the way.  He is one of the few reasons I watch TV and when it comes to him, I am really watching.  I’m enthralled.  I want his life and more so than out of jealousy, I am appreciative of his job well done.

As a disclaimer, I am also not-so-oddly sexually attracted to his silver fox/rough n’ tough around the edges demeanor.  I know a good many women who are as well.  I learn to love a new thing about him each and every time he releases a statement.  For instance, when asked what he has learned as a writer, he replied with, “Nothing.”  Nothing.  Who is that honest to deliver an answer that no one, yet everyone, wants to hear?  Anthony Bourdain is a man with a mind, a manor, and a pallet who got damn lucky.  Damn lucky to be one of the first who traveled and cooked and got noticed on the level we all are on (at least in our heads) at this time.  Sigh.

I haven’t done one of these figures any kind of justice or proper praise.  I’ve probably insulted them actually, just by blabbing about my love for them without a say in what is good or bad.  Oh well: “you are what you love, not what loves you.”  I’ll take that.  They don’t have to agree. 

D.C.
     

Monday, August 2, 2010

intentions



I’m going to make you believe I’m a decent person (hell, maybe even a good person), just by exposing myself as human.  If it works, it will either be one helluva manipulation on my part, or a pleasant little miracle.

I could very well be seen as a walking contradiction; a hypocrite with ever-changing personas, usually to an extreme high or low to match my hair color of choice for a given few months (high when I’m a blonde, low when I’m nearly black, if you so difficultly follow).  I always assume that I know what I want and conquer it, yet after the high wears off, I am of course naively not in the know.  My life, as anyone else’s, constitutes varying episodes of positives and pains, yet I am certain that no one’s two series follow the same course.  Mine have been, well, interesting.

Boring you with the iper-detailed stories of my youth would bore me as well.  I guarantee at least a few will come up intermittently throughout my unknown duration on this web page, but frankly, I’m a little too excited to finally be on board the blog-bandwagon that I don’t want to write about anything substantial tonight. If this defeats the purpose, I don’t really give a damn at this point: I’m just stretching for my warm-up laps.

I want to talk about my likes and dislikes.  Probably, my dislikes will show up a little more frequently.  I want to reminisce and roam, boast and get you to take my side undemocratically when I make claims from the only narrow and biased viewpoint I know: my own.  Ultimately, I am merely taking advantage of a creative outlet because I believe in expressionism and the liberal arts more than anything else in this world.  For those of you with a brain shifted towards the right, I am sorry for you.  Mine leans in your opposition and I wouldn’t have it any other way. 

My grammar will frequently be incorrect and my spontaneity of thought may be misinterpreted as attention deficit.  But stay with me.  Get to know me while I get to know myself.

D.C.

my cyber beginning

This blog is about to be one helluva work-in-progress, but it shall come along (perhaps slowly, certainly surely). Stay tuned…
D.C.